October 12, 2007
Letter from Brooklyn: On Naming your children for Poets
Well, we’re up to ten ears in the Parr household, so allow me to introduce you to my sons Wyatt and Seamus. They were plucked from the womb three Thursdays ago, a few weeks early but thankfully healthy, weighing in at over six pounds each (and yes, that means my wife was carrying around more than twelve pounds of baby and a whole lot more in fetal luggage). Mom and babies are doing well, their dad praying for straight teeth and college scholarships – although at this moment a few hours of sleep might be nice – and big brother is affectionate and enthusiastic about his little brothers.
Because we named our first son Auden, many expected us to name the next two Shelly and Wordsworth or Kafka and Camus or something like that, so I thought it might be worth mentioning my thoughts on the subject. All three of my sons are indeed named for poets. Not so much in a zealous idolatry way, but if one is going to have some sort of theme or defined thought process behind naming their children, then why not the most noble – in my opinion – of occupations? First and foremost we like the sound of the words (although we nearly didn’t use Wyatt because of the proximity of the “t” to the “P” in our last name) and the general geography of their origins, Wyatt being English and Seamus being Gaelic for James.
While you probably know exactly who Seamus Heaney is, you might have to go back to your college poetry anthologies to remember Sir Thomas Wyatt (1504 – 1542) who was not a major poet in his time- none of his poems were published during his life and then at first in altered form – but a major figure in poetry, having introduced the sonnet form, among others, into English after studying under Petrarch in Italy. Michael Schmidt says of Wyatt, in his excellent book The Lives of the Poets, “…a man who belongs entirely to the renaissance, whose blood has been warmed by the the Mediterranean. Sir Thomas Wyatt is the first great English lyric poet.” He was also a minor historic figure, serving in King Henry VIII’s court and thought to be Anny Boleyn’s lover, evidenced in part by his sonnets and some time spent in the Tower (incidentally, one of King Henry’s wives was Catherine Parr, my great great great….just kidding).
So there you have it. Three boys, three poets; loose connections yes, but not necessarily tenuous. Auden at three is already big on rhyming as a game and wrote his first poem earlier this year (transcribed by me), so hey, you never know. Not sure my wife buys into the idea of having Poets’ name days in our household, but maybe that is a little over the top, no? Oh, and to answer your question: fraternal.
Comments
Congratulations, Bud. Great picture, and great names, too.
My daughter was also born three weeks ago, and we had a tough time naming her because I kept unintentionally suggesting the names of tragic characters, which seemed a cruel start to give her. We ultimately chose Gretchen, and only later did I think of Faust. So no copies of that lying around the house for a few years to come.
– steve (10/12 12:35 PM)
It’s an adorable picture & I’ve been waiting to read your thoughts on this so thank you. It used to be that people just chose Mary or Anne or Sarah or Elizabeth, David or William or Michael or John and moved on. Now that naming has become such a thing, I think it’s interesting to hear what principles parents come up with on their own.
Yours are lovely—moving and ambitious without shackling your children to a lifetime of expectations or raised brows.
Anyway, thanks for the picture and the news!!
– Anne Fernald (10/12 03:35 PM)
So glad to hear everyone is safe and well!! Beautiful names and beautiful little fellows - what a great weight.
Auden is hopefully reasonably impressed?? though I do remember one of mine sagely recommending that the baby go back to the hospital after about a week’s crying at dinnertime.
Enjoy every moment you get, especially the ones when you are able to sleep… ![]()
– Genevieve (10/13 09:43 AM)
Congratulations to your and your lovely family. Three boys named after three poets - you’ll certainly have to keep us abreast of all your collective adventures.
– Xine (10/13 05:38 PM)
How beautiful! Thank you for sharing your news; I had been wondering on progress. Best wishes and all happiness to you and your newly enlarged family.
– Sandra (10/14 04:07 PM)
I have younger twin brothers (now 55 years old). I loved seeing that picture of your babies. You’re in for a big time, as I expect you’ve already learned.
Congratulations!
– Peggy Payne (10/15 03:15 PM)
Thanks all and congrats to you, Steve. I think Gretchen is a good name, I have cousin by that name. There’s a tragic Wyatt too, Wyatt Gwynn in The Recognitions.
Richard Prouty, posted this from Thomas Wyatt:
Lo see mine eyes swell with continual tears,
The body still away sleepless it wears,
My food nothing my fainting strength repairs,
Nor doth my limbs sustain.
– Bud Parr (10/15 05:32 PM)
Congratulations! My first thought was Wyatt from The Recognitions—did that play any role in this decision?
– Ted (10/17 04:37 PM)
Thanks, Ted. Wyatt in The Recognitions is an anti-hero if anything, so I tried to avoid that association in my mind! (see Steve’s comment above too)
– Bud Parr (10/17 04:57 PM)
Congrats Bud. You have some beautiful boys. I’m jealous of their cool names.
– Bookdwarf (10/19 03:13 PM)
Bud—
Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful boys! You do recognize, don’t you, that you and your wife are now officially outnumbered.
Hope you are getting at least a little sleep, maybe even 15 minutes of REM every week or so? Would love to see more photos of your brood should you care to share!
Take care. And rest when you can.
Best wishes!
Karen
– Karen (Turner) Willeiksen (11/03 08:51 PM)
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Such a long time since I have read any Muldoon. I will look for that WZ poem. Thanks.
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Oh! They’re just so beautiful! Congratulations to you all on this private poets’ society. I do love the names, though my first thought on Wyatt was Earp. Hey, cowboys sing ballads of poetry, no? Good luck and best wishes for all the good things that little boys bring.
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